Ern misbehave outside of the house!! Our definition of 'misbehave' is something that we as her parents can't tolerant!
We were attending the birthday party of Kelvin & Kaitlyn at their house. Everything was all ok and kids were happily playing. After cake cutting, somehow Ern wanted to eat the cake by herself. Under normal circumstance, we would let her eat. As it was near to Sean's sleeping hour, we were in a rush to get back home. Hence, Daddy told Ern that he will feed.
Daddy hit to the 'right button' of Ern, in getting into her 'nerves' (I think). She started to throw tantrum, kept saying "no" and even walked away. Even we tried to talk nicely to her (knowing she was misbehave), she didn't buy in.
After like 3-4 times of 'sweet talk', our little STILL didn't buy in and kept saying "no" in her angry tone, Daddy and I lost our patience on her. We didn't score her but just told her "fine, we are going home now!".
Woo...Waa...
The crying drama started after she heard the 'going home'!! Cried so loud until Daddy has to bring her to the back of the kitchen. After round 1 of 'sweet time', she stopped! Mana tau, cry again later until VOMIT!
Even after vomit, she was still in her stubborn and angry mood. In the end, we decided to go home while the little girl still showing her 'big pau' face to everyone!!
While we were in the car, Ern knew she was wrong and trying to apologize by calling our names. She didn't say the word 'sorry' but trying to divert our attention to something else and though we can forget about it. To her dismay, daddy and I didn't response to her at all. Then, she kept quiet until we reached home and made her milk (since she threw up).
While she was drinking her milk, Daddy and I were in conversation to sync up what's the best way to correct her behaviour. In the end, I asked Daddy to be the 'bad person' and I just stay quiet. We agreed not to have any 'good guy' so that the message can really deliver to her.
Right after her milk, Daddy started to question her in a VERY fierce and loud tone. She admitted all her acts were wrong and promise not to repeat. She wanted in burst into tears but daddy stopped her. She hold on not to cry (but tears falling down from her red watery eyes) when she apologize to us, knowing that if she cry, things are just going to get worst.
Daddy really did a good job in 'lecturing' our girl. He spoke with the right tone as message really sent across. When Daddy was busy setting up her bed, I asked her what had happened:
Mummy: Do you know why Daddy angry?
Ern: Yes, because I cry.
Mummy: Why you cry?
Ern: Because I make Daddy angry
Mummy: Why Daddy angry?
Ern: Because i no eat cake.
Mummy: Do you know why Daddy say no 'self' (self feeding)?
Ern: Because I will spill the cake, dirty Aunty's house...Aunty angry and mummy has to clean the house. Then...Ern Ern cannot come back home.
Mummy: Next time be good girl, ok?
Ern: YES! (nodd her head few times)
PS: Sorry to Aunty Joanne. Dirty your place and some more have to use your name to 'cross the bridge" in discipline my girl! haha
4 comments:
WS: No worry,hope all of you enjoy the party. Actually i want to tell Ern, "aunty wont get angry, aunty will be very very happy coz your mummy help aunty to clean the house" LOL!
I do salute the way both you and your hubb brought up the kids. 2 thumbs up! Need to learn more from you.
Sometimes they just want to test our patient and see how we react in front of guest. Good job for dealing it nicely in the public!
Ern is soooo cute in this photo.
she wanna feed herself cos maybe got some kid in the house eating by themselves?
hey.. my son also will keep calling our names if he knows we're angry. and he'll kiss me all over the body to tickle me.
but your ern is much better at least she promise u she wou'dn't do it again. Mine.. *shake head*
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